Sex, Drugs, and Social Media – Do You Talk To Your Kids About Their Digital Behaviors?

  • http://mitchlabuda.com Mitch Labuda

    My oldest needed some tips on social etiquette on social media. Many don’t know or understand it is one large public forum and one needs to be careful with the words and expressions used, as each is in a different place in time and mindset.

    • http://www.socmedsean.com Sean R. Nicholson

      I know the feeling, Mitch! Trying to put together some simple do’s and don’ts for my kids so they understand the rules of the road.

      Cheers!

      –Sean

  • http://alamantra.org Alamantra

    Nice article! Good point about Social Media becoming the new communication gap between parents and their kids.

    • http://www.socmedsean.com Sean R. Nicholson

      Thanks, Alamantra! The digital divide is definitely growing and mobile devices and social networks certainly aren’t making it any easier.

      Cheers!

      –Sean

  • http://www.emmageraln.blogspot.com Emma Geraln (@EmmaGeraln)

    My son is 2 so it’s going to be a while before I have to deal with this stuff. I will talk to him about social media, whatever form it takes in 10 or 12 years time!

    I think it’s vital we prepare kids for this stuff, but it’s hard for folks that aren’t into it to understand.

  • http://www.rctoypalace.com Dennis Coble

    Thankfully, our children weren’t into using computers and internet much until they were grown. Some of us can still remember a time before they existed.

  • http://workwithwendyelwell.com Wendy Elwell

    Sean,
    I grew up in the same era as you, I wish my mom had talked to me about sex, drug, and rock and roll the way your mom did. For that reason, I talk to my teenagers about social media constantly and every other risk or predator out there that could endanger my precious kids. I really enjoyed your post and warning to make sure parents need to be engaged in their kids social media habits, I think we as parents need to be involved in all aspects of our kids lives.

    Wendy Elwell

    • http://www.socmedsean.com Sean R. Nicholson

      Thanks for the comment, Wendy! Like you, I spend a lot of time talking with my kids about the risks out there. I’m doing everything I can to help them understand that just like any real-life city, there are “good parts” of the Web and “bad parts” to stay away from.

      As far as I’m concerned, the more they know before spending time on social networks, the better armed they will be to stay away from the creeps.

      Cheers!

      –Sean

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  • http://www.resumebear.com bob warren

    Great Read!!

  • http://www.ginavalley.com gina valley

    I am constantly shocked by the lack of over-sight and just conversation in general that the parents of my kids friends exhibit. Too many parents are unaware of the importance and power of social media. Great post. I’ll pass it along.

    • http://www.socmedsean.com Sean R. Nicholson

      Glad you enjoyed it, Gina! Hope it helps some other parents out there too!

      Cheers!

      –Sean

  • http://www.waynemansfield.com Wayne Mansfield

    Great perspective on Modern day challenges… I was a child of the 60′s… it was just great booze then for mum and dad to worry about.

  • http://twitter.com/TestingInWNC/status/194195921578373120/ R&R Testing Services (@TestingInWNC)

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  • stevenandre

    ASAP make a Facebook page/account and see what is going on.
    Make it a game by sending each other messages, instead of notes on the fridge (so you learn). And ask your kids for advice building there site or what ever(bounding). In that time (quit a of lot time) you can talk and learn and understand what is going on, on social media. Why should I?
    Soon ya gotta; there will be no paper mail anymore in the near future. (don’t wanna alarm them)

  • http://twitter.com/Nurse_Techy/status/194204793282105345/ (@Nurse_Techy) (@Nurse_Techy)

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  • http://www.whosyourgladys.com Marilyn Suttle

    Ha! Since I’ve been so active with social media, launching a bestseller with it, and involved in conversation management, my sons (in their twenties now) came to me to learn the ropes of social media. (I was the mom who made chocolate chip cookies while listened to AC/DC, and Prince, but that’s another conversation all together.) It’s made for a great success for my first born. He put together his LinkedIn right after college and updates it often enough that he just got a dream job with a great company that approached him because of how he showed up there. Talk to your kids. Learn this stuff. Its a difference maker.

    • http://www.socmedsean.com Sean R. Nicholson

      Thanks for sharing, Marilyn! Glad to hear that open conversations helped prepare your kids for the social networking. I agree…the more we talk, the more aware of the risks/benefits they’ll be.

      Cheers!

      –Sean

  • http://XeeMe.com/WhetstoneMedia Bill Whetstone

    Sean
    From one Coffee addict to another, thanks for the wake up call. I needed the reminder to engage my son in a discussion if for nothing else than to show my interest in him.

  • http://twitter.com/JaimeVanderG/status/194219643953618946/ Jaime Vandergrift (@JaimeVanderG)

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  • http://about.me/catherinewhitephotography Catherine White

    I’m the one leading the way with social media in my family. My son the academic follows my social media lead.

    As for my grand children, I’m delighted to note my 13 year old grand daughter is not the least bit interested in Facebook, or any network for that matter. Notwithstanding, her online activity is monitored without too much ado.

    I’m aghast to observe the online behavior of nieces and nephews, and from time to time ride the social media high way patrol. Unfortunately, not everyone has a full grasp of due diligence with our childrens online activity, so well done, on a well argued post.

    Catherine

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  • John Gaither

    Drugs are just bad ,I know…I was doing them for 35 years and just quit 2 years ago, besy move I ever made…

  • http://twitter.com/marysstampplace/status/194248978274066432/ (@marysstampplace) (@marysstampplace)

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  • http://twitter.com/JeffMayernik/status/194304163319001088/ (@JeffMayernik) (@JeffMayernik)

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  • http://twitter.com/drnbhashyam/status/194398042546372608/ N Bhashyam (@drnbhashyam)

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  • http://twitter.com/WitkosRobinson/status/194453168904617984/ Kristy Robinson (@WitkosRobinson)

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  • http://twitter.com/CaffeOCMommy/status/194484280943058944/ Caffeinated OC Mommy (@CaffeOCMommy)

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  • http://caffeinatedocmommy.blogspot.com/ Caffeinated OC Mommy

    Of course I’ve had the “talk” Sean Darling… I’m an out of the box thinker when it comes to parenting. I know that resumes are old school, and future employers will be more interested on what they find by Googling potential employees. I tell my kids that anything you put online, will be there forever… do you want that? Think before you click… Great article my Dear, Cups Up! xoxo

  • http://BewitchedinSalem.com bewitched in salem

    Indeed, very important to discuss with our children

  • http://twitter.com/brasonja/status/194562545774903296/ (@brasonja) (@brasonja)

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  • http://twitter.com/candacemountain/status/195209634825519106/ (@candacemountain) (@candacemountain)

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  • http://twitter.com/JennGHan/status/196244138407100417/ Jennifer G. Hanford (@JennGHan)

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  • http://twitter.com/CommaFactory/status/197252792702873600/ Dr. Marco Dick (@CommaFactory)

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  • Chrissie

    What a great article. This is something I feel very passionate about.

  • http://www.aixvox.com Detlev Artelt

    Great post – I had long hair as well, loving AC/DC still today and know tons of my friends who can’t explain or discuss with their kids about Social Media…..

    Detlev

  • https://www.empireavenue.com/IVALERIEI Valerie

    Personally with me, I never had “the talk” with my parents growing up, but my parents always seemed to be up to date with all the latest social media at the time that might expose us to sex and drugs. For example, as a child, my dad had banned my sister and I from watching Beverly Hills 90210… then we soon got banned from Dawson’s Creek. Anything with the “MATURE CONTENT” warning on it, we were banned from. Hey, we obviously found a way around it as we also found our way to doing all that was forbidden. However, I feel what made the biggest difference was that we knew our family values. We had our priorities in line. Though my parents never sat us down to tell us to say “no” to drugs and sex, they did make it clear that good grades and staying out of trouble were expected of us. So, though we made some stupid choices, we also made our parents proud. I think the most important thing nowadays, especially with all the social media outlets, is to keep aware. Stay in tune with the latest and greatest fads, get to know your children, and develop a sense of trust between yourself and your children so that you are not playing the detective majority of the time.

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  • http://twitter.com/BEE_Ruud/status/208975760323657729/ Ruud Reijmerink (@BEE_Ruud)

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  • http://twitter.com/IWantToBeleive/status/209595360048455680/ Benjamin Holsinger (@IWantToBeleive)

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  • http://twitter.com/MistaBritt/status/211263280889610242/  MistaBritt  (@MistaBritt)

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  • http://www.socialsnap.com/ @Social_Snap

    Parents are at a disadvantage these days. They have to dig deeper than our parents had to in order to uncover dangerous or inappropriate behavior in their kids. Social media abuse cannot be detected by checking your child for a suspicious smell, glassy eyes or slurred speech. Parents are not able to simply flick the front porch light a couple of times in order to send a lingering date on his way. They have to get on the same page as their kids regarding technology and social media. It takes some time and effort. Our parents had it made:)

    • http://www.socmedsean.com Sean R. Nicholson

      It is tough being a parent, these days. We try to balance teaching our children to be self-sufficient and autonomous while balancing the desire to check over their shoulders to see what they are watching on YouTube or who they are chatting with. I think the key is for parents to continue expanding their dialog with their kids and keep talking about those subjects that are uncomfortable (including inappropriate online content).

      It’s a tough job being a parent…be if we don’t do it right, the consequences are not bright.

      Cheers!

      –Sean

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